Am I over reacting

[Alwaystired246]

So long story short. Over the past few months I’ve noticed that if I ever disagree with DH or voice a different opinion he groans and rolls his eyes. I told him I found his behaviour disrespectful but he still does it.
So for the past 6 weeks we’ve been doing some regular zoom calls with friends/neighbours. A few times after the calls he’s had a go saying I am quite rude as I cut people off a few times. This may be true and I did not do it intentionally.
Well so last night we are on a call having a good chat and he starts jabbing me in the ribs - he tells me on mute that I have to stop talking so much. This morning I brought up last night and told him that I was upset that he thinks it’s ok to tell me when I should/shouldn’t speak. Well he went on saying that “I embarrass” him on the calls as I sometimes interrupt people.
I feel really hurt, I feel like he has 0 respect for me and I don’t want to be in a marriage where he thinks he can control how I speak/behave. What do I do - we have 3 kids... I don’t think he really cares about me at all and I just feel depressed.

Understandably you feel depressed about that. Have you told him how hurtful he’s being? Is he controlling in other ways?

I guess it depends on whether you are actually interrupting/talking over people?

If you are then I'd find that annoying and would probably tell you too, especially if I could see others were getting annoyed

But if you're not actually doing that then no, you're not over reacting and he's being an arse!

I'm not going to jump to LTB straight away, as I have this problem - but in reverse. My OH is a very bad interrupter - to the point that he's even got a written warning from his employer in the past because of it. Family and friends have told him to his face on numerous occasions to shut the fuck up and let others speak...he still does it. It's incredibly irritating and extremely rude.

If you have another video chat try and see if you are actually talking over/interrupting people regularly. More than once in any chat is too often.

It doesn’t matter if you have a tendency to interrupt or not. He is dictating when you should speak and it is terribly controlling. How you act with your own friends down to you and not him, he should not care if you interrupt your friends because it’s none of his business. I’m sure he had things that annoy you as well, it’s part of who we are to have certain qualities.