Hello
My husband moved out just over a year ago. Married 21 years, 2 teenagers. I had no idea that anything was very wrong. Only weeks before this announcement he gave me a beautiful bracelet for my birthday. I started to suspect someone else, asked him numerous times about a particular friendship, he denied it, I believed him. In hindsight, there were big red flags. I was in shock for months, I had never questioned his loyalty. I barely left the house for months.
Six months after his leaving, I managed to extract an admission from him that he was now in a relationship with this woman, he still is and they are having a great time together and enjoying the benefits of the motorhome we bought shortly before he left me.
I was initially adamant that I would not divorce him. I put the onus on him and had asked him to initiate divorce (he says that it is what he wants). I don't think that he has done anything about that and I am not sure that he will bother until it maybe suits him too. I think that he is too busy working and having fun. I have taken up a few healthy hobbies and have decided that for the next few years I want to keep a steady, stable home for our children. I will not seek out another relationship until they are much older.
My husband promised me when he left that nothing would change for me. He would continue to pay into the household account the same amount as he always. He has so far kept his word, on the whole.
What concerns me now is related to our house. I am living in the house with our children, husband rents a place in the next town. 10 years ago I inherited from my parents and used the money to pay off the mortgage. We also had an extension built, paid for with the inherited money. Husband has promised me that he would never make a claim for my share, but having done some research I understand that he could claim 50/50. I only have his word that he would not do this.
The problem is that I know that my husband still tells me lies or withholds information and this is what concerns me.
I have read lots of other threads on here and know that I shouldn't be procrastinating. I am determined to get this right for myself and our children and my parents so I have proceeded slowly.
Does anyone have any knowledge of how I could get the inheritance protected? I know I need to see a solicitor but I don't feel that I should pay any legal fees as it was not my decision to end the marriage. I have been so afraid and busy getting myself out of the emotional pit that I haven't had the courage to face the horrible facts of this yet.
Thank you for reading, sorry it's long but I wanted to try to give the whole scenario.