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Not sure how to cope

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veralovesflowers · 30/05/2020 09:54

My husband and I have had our fair share of problems since we had our children (6 and 2). We had counselling last year and everything seemed much better. Since lockdown we have both had to work full time at home in very stressful jobs with both children at home. We also got very ill with what I think was the virus and he had a massive pay cut so it's been tough. We were ok for the first few weeks but were arguing for the last two. We had a big blow out a week ago and he has now told me he wants to divorce and has left me and gone to live with his parents. It's a trial separation apparently but considering what he said to me I doubt he's coming back.I'm on my own with the kids, the eldest is devastated, I can't see my family as they are shielding, my friends are trying to help but I can't put them at risk. I've been put on compassionate leave this week and work are being as kind as they can but they need me there particularly at the moment. In short I just don't know what to do. I can't stop crying and I know it's bad for the kids to do that so I also feel guilty. I don't know what I'm asking for on here really, I guess I could just really do with some support.

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veralovesflowers · 19/06/2020 15:22

I do really appreciate the support on this thread it makes me feel stronger to hear from all of you that have been through this and that you and your children are ok. Thank you x

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unicornsarereal72 · 21/06/2020 09:15

@veralovesflowers sounds like you are in as good a place as you can be. Good you have things in place for support. There will be good days and bad. But it gets easier in time.

I would suggest pushing for contact routine. If he can't have the children over night. He can see them every Saturday for example. So that you get some time to yourself. I know that is a big adjustment. I hated the children not being here. But with no school at the moment I'm sure you will benefit from the break.

Look after yourself.

Coffeeandbeans · 21/06/2020 09:26

Well done. My Ex H walked out on me 9 years ago when our children were 5 and 7. We are now 9 years down the line. I own the family home (I extended the mortgage to its maximum length) and my kids and I are happy. Stay strong.

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