What are my ducks and how do i get them in a row?

[keeponsmiling679]

To cut a very long story short I believe my husband has borderline personality disorder, our relationship has been full of ups and downs and anger and strange outbursts that made me Google Jekyll and Hyde behaviour many times.
His anger issues and constantly blaming me for the problems in our marriage are affecting our relationship, and my mind.
I know he needs help with this problem but if you know anything about BPD, the person who has it is renowned for pushing away the people they love, and no matter what I do he doesn't believe I love him.

We have three children all at secondary school.

We have our own home, he is the main breadwinner and employed full-time.
I have very much a lifestyle business that just pays for the little extras.

I really don't feel I can go on in this marriage much longer, and I can see the children suffering and witnessing things they shouldn't.

So where on Earth do I go from here.
I wouldn't have a clue where to start when it comes to protecting myself and our children in all of this.
All advice very very welcome

You need legal advice

But it helps if you know
Earnings
Pensions
Savings and other assets
House value, mortgage and equity

You’re entitled to a fair share which could be more or less than 50% depending on multiple factors

Once you have the above you need to start thinking about where you’ll both live, where the children will reside and when they see the other parent etc

Also the expectation, as your children are all At secondary school is very much likely to be that you need to work full time , or at least there is a presumption that you can and should