Next steps after consent order?

[Whichway15]

Hello,

I posted earlier but have since realised i should of posted in here and i was in the wrong place.

So basically we are at the consent order stage, i am unrepresented due to not being able to afford legal help. The only asset is his pension, which i dont have the money to fight for and he has no intentions of letting me have any anyway so i have opted to leave it alone, rather than fight a long battle that i cant afford and really dont have the strength for.

Now his solicitor is saying the judge will likely call us in because this looks heavily in his favour. Due to me being the one who has the children and not taking my share.

Can someone give some advice on what is likely to happen please?

Can the judge change the order or just accept/refuse?

And what next, if it is refused?

Thank you

They can refuse it yes. They refused mine as it was v much in favour of me.

My ex was still feeling v guilty about his affair and was now living with OW. So he suggested he write to the judge and say he was happy for it to go ahead and knew what he was doing etc etc (he was also unrepresented).

It worked.

However, in his case I understand. Are you sure in yours this is a good idea? Have you got maintenance in there?

Our maintenence is sorted through the cma so i believe that doesnt need to go in to the consent order.

I would never be able to find the money to fight him over his pension, and tbh im rather scared off him and dont have the energy or strength either. I just want this all over with.

@user1471530109 sorry i wasnt sure how to tag you in reply

Don’t ignore the pension
You’re married
It needs to go in the pot!

@whichway just reading what you've put and with no legal knowledge but what I know from my own experience of going through divorce. I would view this positively - the judge will want to make sure things are more balanced in your favour. You can't come out of it worse than where you are and you could potentially come out of it better. The judge could order a pension split. It might mean you get what you are entitled to, quickly, without legal expense and as it is determined by the judge, your ex cannot blame or direct his anger at you. It's an opportunity surely for someone else to fight your corner if you are not able to? I know it's easier said than done but don't be intimidated. This is a legal procedure and it's doing what it is supposed to do - protecting you as the more vulnerable party. Stay strong. X