Hi
I’m looking for some advice on how you ladies cope with an abusive, controlling coercive ex long term? It was written in the hearing findings that my ex is controlling and coercive and subjected me to abuse, including physical abuse. He has been ordered to stay away from me and not to threaten, pester or harass me.
He has started pestering me via email again. I cannot keep blocking him as we have two children. Of course I have reminded him that he has been ordered not to threaten, pester or harrass. He stops for a while, then it starts up again. I know he is trying to manipulate me and the undercurrent threats are there. I have to just ignore them. This winds him up and he accuses me of refusing to communicate with him. This has all been discussed in court and he has been told he is controlling and coercive and his emails amount to harrassment.
I can of course report this to the court and apparently he will face imprisonment or a fine. I have to have this man in my life until my children are old enough to see him without me making arrangements.
Please please can anyone offer any advice on how I can deal with this in the long term, like 10-15 years?! Doing this has sucked me of energy and has really affected my wellbeing for the last three years. He will not change. I realise that, so I need to cope. Thank you