Divorce how long please!!!!!

[Hehx3]

Possibly out of blue question, as I understand all circumstances are different but how long divorce took for you?? We have only finances to sort which is a house only (kids and nisi is sorted) its dragging though, with his unrealistic expectations, bullying estate agents and general "im cozy where I am attitude". I just need to see some hope, some sort of ending...

This could drag on and on and on.

My separation/divorce/ financial settlement and children were sorted. . . or so I thought. The w@nker is still in the house, has spent 1.3 years hounding and controlling me, 40K (most probably more) on his solicitor who also happened to bully me, has tried his utmost to take my children away, has coerced me into signing away all the family money to him, has followed and threatened my new boyfriend in the street, got in touch with his ex wife, tarnished my reputation, turned our friends against me with his lies e.t.c

Well here I am 2 years later and it has to go to court.

100K wasted and I will end up with nothing. My children are all I care about now. We will be destitute. My new boyfriend has been my rock so there you have it.

All the best to you but I never thought I would be here.

I wish for you it will be over ASAP.

Thank you for your reply 🌷wish you quick end too and Im sorry it took so much money of you.

Mine took about a year...I don't know how long it should usually take, we had a consent order for our financials but were no disagreements and was fairly amicable

14 months sharing the house while it was on the market; then another 5 years to divorce but in all honesty it didn't matter a bit once we were living apart.

Separated 19 May 2010, decree Nisi 12 October, Decree Absolute 12 January 2011, Dickhead ex dragged his feet applying for absolute. Divorce on grounds of my adultery, could have divorced him for unreasonable behaviour but was advised it could take longer & cost more, wanted it over with asap.

It took me three years. Expensive and painful on every level, but absolutely worth it.

It didn't always feel worth it at the time, but ours was horrendous. This isn't the case for everyone. Do it, you won't look back x

I'm on 21 months. I'm having the same type of troubles as @Ipdipdogshituratit.
No end in sight. Just lie after lie and more hurt and more money.
They seem to want to push you over the edge and they are allowed to get away with it as there is no one to turn to .
It's an absolute joke

From the time i initially called the solicitor until I got decree absolute- 2 years.

(House still needs to be sold, two other minor things in financial order need to be finalised and everything else complete).

Ah so it is a bit of time... he is living with someone a year now, so I was hoping will want to settle and clear it up but I think with that his expectations towards money increased so probably will drag...

@Hehx3 at least he is not in the family home. That must make it a bit easier, stress wise in the fact you do not see him on a daily basis. I slept on the floor for 18 months and we all lived in this horrendous stressy melting pot, it was hell on earth.

It will depend on your circumstances and how fast he responds. It will also depend on how fast the solicitors work and how big their overall case load is and how much annual leave they take as to how fast they prepare your documents. Also other things that can slow it down are responses from pensions etc. Also current cv19 situation might put extra pressure on things and lengthen the time frame.

Ah @RoseMartha that sounds horrendous with 18 mths on a floor. Mine road wasnt easy too - finished with injuction and occupation order on him. Why those man do that?? Its not like we werent in love some time ago?? I cant understand it and I cant understand how could I be so blind... however I m keen to get divorce finished- one of our children has disability and Im so worried I wont be able to afford therapies for him.

@Hehx3
I dont really know but I think my ex did it to keep the control going. He told me at the start he would make it hard for me and he did.

Yes it wasnt the most comfortable sleeping arrangments. I was divorcing him for unreasonable behaviour so in hindsight he was hardly likely to give up the bed for me.

Sorry to hear your struggles so far. 🤗🤗

I am still having issues with contact.

We have nothing formal in place. I did write as asked to his solicitor but nothing was formally agreed. Kids dont really want to go or they will go for a day.
He is abusive to me still, goodness knows why I thought that would stop either. But i am divorced now and it is easier to let it go over my head, not all the time however. But i guess I will get there.

One of my dc is SN so sending you 🤗🤗🤗

Hope it goes quicker than you anticipate and costs you less than you expect. (Longer it drags on the more the cost mounts up. Cant believe how much over the original estimate it went).

Take one day at a time. Focus on what needs to be done as it comes along and try not to worry about things that have not happened yet. Xx

Thank you for your advice, yes I should be sticking more to what it is now than worry too much but as you know its children and its hard not to think about future.
I had the same, I thought it will finish and it never did but maybe one day...
I was hoping law system will be more black and white but its not its grey like everything else and that was tough lesson for me to learn.

@Hehx3 🤗🤗🤗