Child Contact and ex flouting Coronavirus rules

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Bit of a nightmare here. DS stayed at exH this weekend and is due to go back to exH for half a day today. EXH has had NP staying with him over the weekend while with DS - so clearly has not been practicing social distancing as they live an hour's drive apart. Effectively then DS is being moved between 3 households (not houses) as he is with me, then with EXH and in close proximity with NP. DD does not see EXH in person unless she can help it. It also means that DS is potentially exposed to coronavirus more than he needs to be and that he could also bring it home to his sister - so both children are affected by his behaviour. Can I legitimately say no contact and suggest a call/facetime instead? We don't have a CO.
[I am totally unimpressed that he is putting his own 'needs' ahead of his children's wellbeing and safety but actually this is not actually a surprise. I haven't sleep properly. He can. be verbally abusive when he doesn't get his own way]

Yep.
You can say you don't want DS exposed to anyone other than ex-dh...he can isolate for 14 days then see D'S again, or just do face time till this is over.
Do it by email so you have proof if it's questioned.
As your contact is not by CO I wouldn't worry.

We have a CO and a judge said no probs to stop contact through covid but have FaceTime instead.

As long as you have proof he is doing this, you're acting reasonably and in the child's best interests by doing this. As PP said, it might be reasonable to give him an opportunity to change his behaviour.

Another mother being selfish and putting her own anxieties first instead

How long has he been with NP? They haven't moved in together to isolate have they?

I wouldn't see my NP at this time other than because he has issues making him vulnerable I sometimes do his shopping but...

Thank you for your thoughts. I'm going to keep contact going remotely and get some advice about whether exH should self isolate so that contact (providing he were to follow the rules) could then resume as normally. I have got two lots of proof and additionally he has even acknowledged it to the kids directly. The challenge is always is that 'rules don't apply to him' and the whole social distancing thing he just doesn't see as relevant. He certainly doesn't understand how it is relevant to his child access. He hasn't moved in with NP to self isolate its just that it's a bank holiday and they are in the first flushes of romance (trying to think how best to put this!!).I think we could all understand how difficult and lonely it can be to self isolate or follow social distancing guidelines but sometimes you just need to follow the rules for everyone's health and wellbeing. It's frustrating when its just blindingly obvious that as an adult/parent you need to put your children and their wellbeing ahead of your own wishes.