My and my husband separated in September. We have no formal child contact arrangement in place at the moment but have a routine which involves him visiting after work twice a week and then taking our daughter to his for the day on a Saturday.
I am a nurse and have been redeployed to work with children with health problems in the community so I will be visiting their homes. I will be coming home and showering and changing clothes before seeing my daughter. My mum will continue to provide my childcare as I have been told this is acceptable due to being a key worker and having to work.
My ex will also be working as presumably because he is a groundsman he can practice social distancing, in theory. He also lives with his parents and sibling, 2 of those work outside so may also be working but I am not sure.
My ex was due to have my daughter today but I asked for him to come here instead. He came for the morning and then left, then he asked if he could come back in the afternoon. When I said no he said it would be the same as going out to work and coming home.
I am planning to stop the 2 evening visits in the week due to us both working and me working in close contact with vulnerable children. I am thinking of continue to say he can visit our daughter at my home on a Saturday morning as she is too young to do any sort of facetime etc.
Is this reasonable? Our relationship was emotionally abusive and I find it difficult to know what is fair as I am always told whatever I say is wrong.