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Where do I go from here

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Aussielass · 17/03/2020 20:57

About 18 months ago I decided I wanted out of my marriage, we had been together for 24 years and I wanted a new life with our kids. DS 19 and DD 17. I couldn't afford a lawyer to start proceedings so was advised to claim I was being abused to get legal aid. I did this and made an occupational order, this all came as a shock to him, and we ended up in family court.
He agreed to move out for 2 months and then see what happened after that. he moved back in, in December 2018, and we tried to make it work, but it was over. We agreed to divorce, with me wanting it as early as possible.
Our house was sold and we split all our assets 50/50, but I had some additional money that I put in my daughters bank account. I think he has some additional money but I can't prove it. He now wants to raise the divorce, but I'd like to try and get some more money from him as a nest egg. I bought a house cash and was left with some additional money - about £12000. I don't want to use this to contest a divorce in case I am unsuccessful, can I get legal aid to contest this? He moved out in November last year, and he now doesn't talk to me or the kids, as he claims I am making allegations against him. I'm not, but I do discredit him quite a lot.
Wow, good to get that off my chest.

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millymollymoomoo · 17/03/2020 23:01

Sorry so you committed fraud essentially to wrongly get legal aid, agreed a settlement and now want more? Plus you lied and hid noney without declaring it

I’m not surprised he’s not talking to you - you have made wrongful allegations !

You are despicable. Hope you are not successful

Mummymummums · 17/03/2020 23:11

Serves you right. Could this be a reverse? You faked domestic abuse to get him out. You let down all genuine victims when you do that.
Hopefully he'll take you to the cleaners.

Otter71 · 18/03/2020 09:37

It would appear that you already had a fair settlement unless the marital assets were huge..

I don't know equally if there really was abuse. Particularly with emotional abuse and coercive control it can be a lot more perception than anything else.

Assuming that you are now paying for legal fees anything you go back for is likely to be less than the amount you pay lawyers. Be satisfied with what you have and start moving forward

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