I,m so worried. My DS has been living this this woman for 5 years. She's still married as her and her ex have never divorced as they didn't have the money to do it at the time and couldn't be bothered. They haven't seen each other in years as far as I am aware but she knows where her MIL lives.
I've found all the forms she needs online to get divorced, not difficult as it's been well over 5 years, but she just can't be bothered to sort it out.
My DS and her are now talking about buying a flat together and are just ignoring my warnings, nothing I can do as both of them are old enough to know better 36 and 40.
I've said if he suddenly wants a divorce he can claim part of her savings and part of the flat and what if she dies - she could as she has a life limiting condition - what happens to my DS then? I'm pretty sure the ex can claim all of her share of the flat.
They just don't seem to care and just drift through life without thinking of the consequences.
I was going to give them some money to help them buy the flat but there is no way I'm going to in these circumstances and now I am the wicked witch of the east.
Does anyone have any actual examples of an ex husband,no divorce popping up and claiming money years after the relationship ended?
I am trying to find some examples for them as they just poo poo my concerns.
I did tell them about my neighbour who never got divorced. She died and left her home to her children. her ex got wind of her death through the local papers and rushed in and claimed the house. Now the children have nothing and the ex husband has left the house in his will to his 2nd wife's children even though they are not related to him.