I think me and OH have come to the end of the road. We’ve been together 17 years, 3 dcs, both work full time. It’s been a long time coming but I just don’t think we like each other anymore. I have some mental health issues, I’m 47 but post menopausal, have anxiety and probably depression too. I think dp is also depressed. Neither of us are who we were when we met and I just don’t feel like I can be bothered to keep trying at it. He’s been known to cheat, I’m not sure it was physical, he denied it but there were definitely flirty messages - that was some years ago and we tried to work through it. I’ve probably never trusted him since. I sense he’s up to it again but can’t prove it.
How do we split up though? I’ve no idea how I’ll afford the house on my own and it’s only just big enough for us. We pay everything jointly so what are our options with the mortgage? Dp has started lots of projects in the house but not finished them, I’m desperate to get them done but he has no interest. I just feel like I’ll be forever living in a building site and won’t be able to afford to get it all done professionally.
I’m pretty sure that he’ll couch surf for a while and will move on quickly with someone else. He’ll probably have little interest in seeing the kids but will likely pay the minimum he has to. He won’t be the type who’ll want to share custody - more a McDonald’s drive through once a month.
I’m not worried about being on my own, more how I afford to put right all this work that’s half started or in need of doing.