Hi all.
Having an absolutely shitty day here. Been with husband 11 years, 2 kids. Been to relate 3 times. He was absolute shit when first was born, disappearing after work to strip clubs, not helping at all at home. Stayed together because of kids.
Latest stint is he’s been out of work for the past 7 months, took out 30k loan for building up his own business. We’ve been surviving on his savings and i cut out all but essential spending completely. We are now 2 months away from not being able to pay for all outgoings- childcare, home, etc. Business still not providing anywhere near enough. He won’t have any of my questions regarding this. I cannot sleep at night thinking how we are going to go on. Every time i ask about plan B he gets angry and shouting match happens. He claims im not helping him. This is with me having full time full on job, doing all the cleaning etc. Apparently i dont help enough.
Every weekend is just horrid. Same today. We were yelling at each other just earlier. I once again suggested divorce- i honestly dont see a way out, he hates my questions because he doesnt want to get a job, wants to keep trying with business. My salary is just not enough to cover all and im worried sick that he’ll be taking out more loans behind my back. He had a good job before bringing in good money and i feel he is being unreasonable putting us into this position.
My son then kicked off and i had an argument with him - not proud of that. I’m at a loss here and so stressed out. Our relationship was never great with dh and latest financial worries are just too much and are exposing all the cracks (massive cracks).
I seriously consider to just filing the papers for divorce as im worried about loans etc fucking up my situation as well.
I should probably talk so someone but not sure who- solicitor? I need to find out potential financial impact of all of this on me. It’s horrible but he seems to care more about calling himself a managing director and keeping the face than any of what i say.