Husband keeps threatening divorce?

[2kids1me]

Hoping to find some advice here.

My marriage is breaking down. I have suggested councelling and I have tried to have reasonable conversations with my husband. It’s pointless

He’s in a perpetual state of thinking he is right!
All i listen to daily is how he wants x, y & z to change. One of those being me another my children, we are all wrong. All the time.

I’ve done some of what was asked of me, but I also asked for things to change. He said he isn’t the issue.

I feel unless we can find a way to get out of the blame stage that all this is doing is destroying us.
And to be frank all that is holding me down is love. Which we all know is not enough.

Have we reached the point of no return?
Can we turn this round and stop the blame games?

I feel lost right now

Thanks for reading

Would you not be happier splitting up? This sounds exhausting.

I had 20 years of that. My wish Is that I had gone sooner. The problem was never with him. The kids seem to love him more for being perfect though 🤣🤣🤣

Mine said that to me all the time in arguments, I ended up taking him up on the offer of divorce instead of begging him to stay, that took him by surprise.

Just take him up on his suggestion. If he can't love his kids unconditionally he's a worthless parent and husband anyway. He will eat away your love and your self esteem if you stay. He will leave you a shell of yourself, always tiptoeing around his endless destructive criticism. He will do the same to your children. Walk away and start over.

My life started when I got divorced. Don’t be scared to find a new life without this worry and unhappiness. You deserve more than this.

To OP

The advice you have already received sounds the best. Move on.

Might be tempting to stick it out for your children, but you might be surprised how quickly children will adapt. However, please don't try and use children as a bargaining chip during the seperation process.

Sorry maybe I should have stated they are my children and not ‘biologically his’ that doesn’t make it better I am aware but that’s the situation

Pressed post too quick! Thanks for everyone’s comments. I think I have some hard thinking and choices to make