Custody with an alcoholic abuser

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So I am planning to separate/ divorce my h due to a lot of reasons but mainly his excessive alcohol intake. How will custody work as I wouldn’t trust him having dd6 staying over obviously it’s not safe for her ie when he’s passed out etc as it’s just like her being in the house by herself really . Recently he turned up at school drunk obviously he wasn’t allowed to pick dd. That’s how worse he’s getting. He’s refused to get help as he’s functional he works full time etc and refuses that he has an alcohol problem . How do I get dd to not stay over when we separate? He can see her everyday as I will be moving in the same area? I wouldn’t want her to not see her father or change schools.Has anyone ever been in this situation?

Do social devices know about all this? If they do then I imagine they wouldn't recommend your baby doesn't stay overnight either! If they aren't involved then I would Just tell him straight that until the drinking goes down he's not having your baby overnight because of their safety.

No SS not involved. Thanks for the advice

Was there a written record from the school that he won't be allowed to pick up your DD if he's drunk?

You need some third party evidence to show there is a problem if you have to go down the legal Child Arrangements route.

Is he really going to dispute this? Would he want overnights??

Often these guys make a fuss but never actually do anything..
I would ask school to confirm in writing why they refused pick up ..

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Nothing recorded. The school rang me. Will have to ask them to put it in writing. And yes he’s insisting on 50/50 custody.