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Should I stay or should I go?

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Cezpart1980 · 24/01/2020 15:33

I recently separated from my partner of 17 years, it was very out of the blue, he just said he wasn’t happy! We have a two year old and seven year old. We live in a large detached, and with maintenance payments I can afford it, however, I would struggle with any expensive maintenance. The local area is ok, but the schools aren’t great although my eldest enjoys school.

My mum lives in a lovely area where I grew up and where I’ve always wanted to move back to, however, my ex never agreed. House prices in the area are extortionate but schools are outstanding.
I still have friends in the area and do a lot with kids there.

If I moved back I would be living in half the sized house and would possibly need to consider shared ownership, however, I would be closer to my mum so plenty of childcare available, plus easier to pop round to see her. My heart is telling me to move but my head is telling me to stay. I’m just after a bit of advice and opinions? Stay or go? Thanks in advance

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Tinydancer123 · 28/01/2020 10:27

Go where you will have support and feel comfortable. You can make any house a home. I understand as my husband has left. I moved to be with him , but my family and friends are two hours away. I will stay because of schools and my job but if it was not for my job I would move x

MakeMineALargeProsecco · 28/01/2020 10:36

Similar situation here - I would love to go back but do not have a job to go to.

I'm also in Scotland where the law is different - if I moved he could object & take me to court.

How would your DC cope with the move & schools?

Also is their dad in agreement?

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