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Confused about my children's rights not to have contact with ex

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thenamehaschanged · 23/01/2020 21:27

Hi everyone

I'm looking for a bit of advice about what mine and my daughters rights are with regards to no-contact when the non-molestation order we have against my ex-husband/their father runs out in a couple of months. (Or rather, what his rights are I guess Confused)

My girls are 14 and 11 and they do not want any contact with him (he was emotionally/psychologically abusing all of us). They've had some counselling at school and we had social services involvement at the time who wrote quite a damning report about him, but currently we have no input from anywhere as we don't need it. It's been so lovely and peaceful....but I'm getting anxious now.

We will have moved home so he won't know our address. I'm going to change my number and email address and my plan is to change my girls' numbers too (though my 14 year old's not so keen on that). He does know their school though.

I'm hoping we can just carry on like we are with him unable to contact us - but he's never going to fully go away and even though we never decided custody in the divorce, only the financials, he does still have parental rights. The non-mol came about while living together while divorcing and his behaviour had escalated to unbearable, so we've had no Cafcass involvement yet. My younger daughter is really scared that he'll apply to court to see them, my older daughter is old enough to choose not to, but she might have to as she's still quite young.

What are my rights to say 100% no to that if that happened?

Thanks Flowers

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Otter71 · 24/01/2020 09:58

14 yo gets to choose for herself. 11yo probably too but the right to choose seems to start somewhere between 10 and 12 depending on who you speak to.
Of course if he chooses to make a nuisance of himself you may need to go back for another non mol order.

thenamehaschanged · 25/01/2020 10:07

Thanks Otter that's really good to know.

I think I'm just going to carry on as I am then and make us as uncontactable as possible. I'm not being a parental alienator(?) - I'm protecting my kids.

I looked into extending the non-mol but I need specific reasons to do that which I don't really have at the moment. So frustrating - abuser's don't change.

Thanks again Flowers

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