Can I have some suggestions of fair custody/contact for 18 month old dd?
Ex & I are separating & currently still living together which is hellish, we haven’t talked really about custody yet and he’s not great at compromise so I’d like to be prepared.
He is happy for her to live with me mainly it seems but wants to be able to ‘see her all the time’. I’m happy to be flexible but think we probably need some set days.
Currently I work part time & am with her most of the time. I do almost everything to look after her, though he is happy to take her out for the day/play with her for a couple of hours. She adores him.
I just don’t know what is fair. I’m going to have to start working more so will have childcare costs to think about. She still doesn’t sleep very well so I don’t really want him to only have overnights at the weekend and I don’t want to still be doing everything whilst he just swoops in occasionally to do the fun stuff. But obviously it’s about what is best for DD, and that’s what I don’t have the answer to.
I’m thinking perhaps one/two overnights during the week and a day with her at the weekend perhaps? Does that seem reasonable?