In need of advice

[BillyBunting]

I intend to see a lawyer but first I thought I'd tap the very deep knowledge base on MN. I'm thinking of divorce but our money situation has me feeling very blue. I think I've been very stupid....

Married 12 years. Two kids from marriage. I came with nothing to my name. OH was house owner. We did the 'good life' so both of us gave up our careers and lived off very little. Now kids are 9 and 10. I have little income and no pension. OH has no pension and no income. We currently live in borrowed house so no mortgage. We have no shared bank accounts. OH is due a lump of inheritance. I gather from him he has about 500k in wealth but when we've discussed divorce (not in depth yet) he is only reckoning on paying CM.

What could I hope for in the event of a divorce? Would I be entitled to anything other than CM?

@Strogey20 you need to start a new thread - possibly in the relationships topic?

Just catching up this morning. I feel some relief about wealth bought into marriage - though most of our married wealth was inherited during the marriage. House is a live-in gift from FIL. We haven't discussed post-divorce arrangements - I'm still figuring out what I'm going to do. I'm sure he'd want the kids close, but doubt he'd be up for 50/50 split. I've just started seeing a counsellor to sort out my thoughts and next week I start a retraining course with the goal of re-entering the teaching profession. If it changes anything we were married in France but now live full time UK. All inheritance came from UK relatives.

Thank you Hello, I take your advice too. I shall be seeing a solicitor soon and see where I stand. I'm just feeling the ground here first, plucking up courage really. There is a diversity of opinion it seems. A glimmer of hope for me that I'll perhaps OH will contribute something towards a rental.

The posts don't make much sense but ignoring his inheritance you say he has wealth of £500k. So ultimately that is the only asset you both have. You both need to house the kids(even if you have a free house currently), kids are still at junior school. Both of you will be expected to show you are maximising your income rather than growing cucumbers . Simple as that. Neither of you seem to be though so it could well be a protracted and long process and not cheap