Help! I don't know what to do!

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I don't normally seek out help or admit to anyone In my personal life what's happening but I'm just at my lowest and don't know what to do.

I'm on strong antidepressants and have got help with my local mental health team due to depression and stress, but I can't talk to or find help with my situation and don't know where to turn.

Since separation from my husband of 15 years I've had to give up full time work) worked nights and shared care of my daughter with my husband who is her father.

He was emotionally abusjve and when he left to live with other woman told lies about me to his family who turned their back on me and he, his partner and family had sent abusjve messages saying I was controlling.

I can't afford the private rent and may be made homeless soon, as my private landlord might not keep me on at end of tenancy as he questioned that I have now had to go on benefits, am part time and a sole tenant. I think he will make me and daughter 12 homeless.

I struggle with paying the bills and have now got into debt as I work part time and can't find full time work which would mean leaving dd 12 home alone.

Often can't afford to eat and so tired, stressed and so worried about the home. My ex does not pay maintenance and can't be found.

I make sure dd has enough but it's hard, I'm really struggling and don't sleep, just wish I could find more hours and could pay the bills but I will not leave a 12 year old alone

Sorry to read about your troubles, in regards to your EX i assume he now has no contact with his daughter ?

Can you not file a CSA claim through their website and let them track him down. I assume you have his NI number etc given you were married for that long

Do you have any family locally yourself who can help and support your situation ?

Thank you, basically my rent is too high to live in alone but I can't rent cheaper as I've tried but private landlords will not take us.

I do have his national insurance number but he has moved abroad, he met a German woman online and cms have no jurisdiction. He cut control with daughter when he moved abroad and I'm chasing through remo but don't hold any hope.

Should have read contact, not control, but no.. he basically disappeared. Daughter is devastated and I still can't believe it, his family will not speak to me and tell me anything as he told them I was a nasty piece of work. I put up with a lot of bullying and couldn't defend his lies as I couldn't believe what he was doing

Sounds like you are well rid of him if i am honest, hopefully you can get some help from friends and family so you can work more hours possibly.

I assume your doing the normal things like reduction in council tax, Tax Credits etc etc

Do the grandparents see her ?

On the work front, at 12 your daughter should be ok to be at home for a few hours after school alone. Can she get home on her own / with a friend ? Mine are fine from 4-6 as are all their friends
Of course you’d still need some arrangement in holidays but cAn you perhaps share this between parents of her friend groups which is what often happens at this age