Decree nisi stage.. confused?

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I was wondering if anyone can shed some light on this?

In June I received the acknowledgment of service which I returned. I called back in August to check the progress and was informed that the divorce would be a paper application now as the original application online was made before my ex moved abroad.

The judge had not accepted the grounds as for the grounds husband had stated that "my wife has shown that she will not agree to a divorce after I put a process in place and she refused"

For background I had refused to sign the original petition as he had applied for the divorce in my name and had based it on his unreasonable behaviour. Had printed this out from an online quickie divorce, and had come to the house telling me to sign in front of him and blackmailing me by telling me he would not see his daughter unless I signed.

From his previous behaviour I refused to be controlled by him and told him so.

I was told that an amended petition and financial orders raised by him would be sent and I was waiting to receive them and send back.

Called today and the divorce service have told me I should await a decree nisi by 20th January.

Is this possible if I have not returned the amended petition and the original acknowledgment of service was rejected by the courts?

Also I have no idea what grounds he could have stated about me, although whatever it is I would like to know and should have a right to know?

Perhaps I should just let the divorce go through but I have to admit I don't understand the process.

Husband has used a quick online divorce and since separating I didny have the money for a solicitor.

Sorry to clarify, he had applied for a new divorce petition in his name based on my unreasonable behaviour after I had refused to sign a petition that was in my name which he wanted to go through on grounds of his adultery and he would pay costs!!

Ive been there my ex took me. To a heaewing as he wanted the grounds of adultery but it didnt. The divirce went through. On unreasonable behaviour. You may have to call the clerks and check whta petition it is being process on and what grounds you should have a copy of that. If not definately let them know.

Thanks for replying, I contacted the divorce service and they seemed to think I had received a petition and had sent back an acknowledgment of service eventually I managed to make them understand that no! I have not seen or replied.

They then told me that it was not a decree nisi to expect but I would receive an amended petition but to call back in 3 weeks if not.

Never realised that it could go through to nisi without the respondent seeing a copy... terrible!! Just feel I have the right to know what grounds are as he could have put something nasty or incorrect there!!!