I'm scared he will take the kids from me

[inthedarkX]

So my husband is planning to buy a 4 bed house in the area where is girlfriend lives. She lives an hour drive away from me ( longer by public transport)
And he's been saying how he would like his kids to live in a nice house ect and he's saving to buy for them. Now I'm so worried he will take me to court and demand full custody for him and his girlfriend to get the kids. And because he works and will have a bigger house and drives I am scared I will lose the kids and only get to see them now and again. I will be at a disadvantage because I don't drive and they will live So far away. I'm having pain in attacks over it. He goes on and on about buying a house for them. So I'm really anxious and scared everyday that he and his gf will get the kids and she will look after the kids whilst he works. He's been acting really odd lately asking me twice now to go to his flat with him and the kids for a bit and obviously I've declined but I find that really odd and this behaviour is making me nervous. I feel like he's trying to have something on me and it's mental torture!

inthedark, I’m no expert at all on this stuff but courts don’t decide custody based solely on material comforts or whether you can drive.

Please do try to get some sleep now and look in the morning at where the nearest free ad ice on family law to you is. Might be citizens advice and if not they should be able to tell you where to go.

In the meantime please try to get some sleep

Hallo my lovely ....so sorry to hear of the turmoil you are going through. It is highly unlikely he will get full custody , this depends on the individual case and other factors such as the childrens' ages , feelings and wishes etc , but still unlikely.
Please , please get some legal advice to put your mind at rest. Wishing you the best x

Nobody gets full custody unless either parent is literally hooked on meth. Literally this is the case. Stop worrying.

Both of you are parents. Both have equal rights. It is the child's interests that takes priority

This really won't happen. If the children currently live with you and always have done residency won't be granted to him. Worst case scenario would be 50:50 but a lot of circumstances are taken into account and it's still common to have more of a 70:30 or 60:40 split.

If the children have a life and particularly if they attend school where you are, he won't be able to move them permanently.