Apart from being verbally abusive towards me regularly. My daughters (16 months), dad is making arranging contact very difficult. The relationship has been over now for just over a year. There was a brief period were we got along ok. He then asked me to get back with him and I said no and made it clear based on all that had happened that would not be happening. During that period when things were ok I got an email from him saying he was about to start a new job that would provide him with his shift notice every seven weeks. At the time we were arranging contact around his work rota which he received every week. It was hard but I appreciated that it was out of his hands and he wasn’t deliberately giving me short notice. He said once he starts his new job he will provide me with his availability every seven weeks in advance so that I could better plan. However since things broke down again after I rejected him, he is now sending me many emails saying that I can only have two weeks notice and lump it’ and that ‘two weeks is all I am getting’ I have remained calm and sent him civilised emails with my reasons for wanting his full seven week availability. Such as how it will make it easier for me to return to work, I have childcare all organised so I won’t be relying on him but it would still make it easer to know what days he is seeing her. I don’t have a social life as I never leave my baby and I have a ten year old daughter from a previous relationship. I just want to be able to better plan our weekends together as a family unit and so on. I’ve told him that if he was only getting two weeks notice of his shifts himself that I would understand but that it seems pointless only giving me two weeks notice when he has seven weeks in front of him. What he also forgets is that it often equates to him giving me just a few days notice when he emails on a Sunday night with his two weeks notice but is wanting contact the next day. I feel he is acting deliberately but it’s about to go to court and he’s told me the judge will agree with him that two weeks is plenty of notice and that I’m not privy to his full Rota. He tells me it’s not his fault if I have poor time management skills and can’t cope with two weeks. He also says that I have nothing to plan and that if I ask for more notice again he is going to report me for harassment. Does anyone have any thoughts on what the judge may think is fair? I’m not asking for his rota for any other reason than it will make life that little bit easier. There are lots of things going on right now between me and him such as him being warned by police to stop being verbally abusive towards me. But I don’t want to look like I’m harassing him when I’m not.