So here is the background:
13 years together
Married 6
3 month old DS
House in H name
Ups and downs but thought marriage was ok.
So life was fine, we had tried for a baby and it didn’t happen. Unexpectedly fell pregnant and both really happy about it. One month after DS born, H drops a bombshell, he’s unhappy and “loves me but not on love”- wants to separate?
So fast forward to now, went to 2 counselling sessions but H didn’t like what he heard. Basically immature and needed to grow up. Our families are aware that things aren’t going well. H has admitted he feels left out with baby and is basically jealous of him.
In the past he has had msgs, etc with people online and I learned to forgive him for that. He states there is nobody else.
He is so cold, doesn’t really talk and goes hot and cold. Lovely and then nasty.
Agreed to separate in January, so he’s in the house. I’ve contacted a solicitor to begin separation/divorce proceedings as I cannot live like this. He needs to move out, but he’s basically said he wants me but doesn’t?
Am I rushing this solicitor thing? Or am I being stupid?
With having just has the baby I feel very vulnerable and am not sure I trust my decisions at the moment.