Hi, I need some advice.
I am going to divorce soon and told him to leave the house(I know it doesn’t matter if the house is on my sole name or not but it’s mine, I bought it right after marriage because of his moan, I was going to buy his parents a bungalow because she moaned so much for over 2 years at the beginning saying that if she get the money back from his son, she would have bought a bungalow and I loved her) and he said he won’t leave until the marriage end. and have been trying to talk with my ex-to-be. but he says one thing and next day he says something else. He says not very pleasant but on text messages very nicely as if nothing has happened.
Yesterday morning, when I tried to got out of the bed, he stood right in front of me trying to argue with me. I pushed him on his arm very lightly to get out of the bed. He suddenly screamed and rang his mum saying “ mum, XX hit me” and his mum shouted over the phone and threatened me.
It looks like he is trying to victimise himself saying he has been bullied by me from the start. Actually, I am the victim of his hot-temper,swears(you can’t speak English, you can’t cook, learn English, you are disabled, etc),punch things, punch himself. I had a counselling service for depression, I made some inquiries for domestic helpline because of him in the past.
I am the person who brought all the money into the marriage and he had non and he didn’t even have a job. When I was pregnant right after marriage, he threatened me that he will ring home office and I will have to leave the country in two months time and “that baby in your tummy, I don’t even know it’s mine, i will never support. I felt trapped because I just got married, bought a house because he didn’t even want to get a council house when we lived in his parents 2 beds council house for 3 months, got pregnant, applied for a spouse visa.
It’s been nightmare (he put towards knife on me because his dinner was cold and then next minute, he begged for a cuddle or kiss. Who would possibly do that? He loves psychological game and he makes someone angry on purpose and he said he feels so good when the person blow up because he psychologically wins he said. I really think he has a mental problem. and now I want to get out this hell but he seems he wants to blame for all. Threatening over my child saying “son, you can only speak English not your mummy’s language, you cannot go to your language school on saturdays, my son cannot cut his hair if I don’t want to. I am sorry but that’s the law, all sorts.
So many things He put false ideas into my little son’s head. his mum has been involved every single time and now they are trying to threatening me over untrue actions they made up(he has been bullied from the start because he had a 3D job and uneducated, etc, In fact he didn’t even have a job. Also, If I bullied him for those why would I was married him? So many lies and games going around. What should I do?