A mans world!

[Red51fox]

Yes i am a man, sorry!
A few weeks ago told marrisge over after 13 years as she is bored and sees me as a friend. We still live in same house although i am on an airbed in spare room (single bed on order). We just about get on but difficult to see her going out, possibly dating. I cant bring myself to that yet but have thought it. I am the main income to the house and she knows if i go she cant pay the bills.....

as an adult she will have to sort the bills.
it's not fair on you to live there pay the bills and watch her go about life as a single person without responsibilities.
if you have to live together temporarily quickly or via a lawyer come up with some tenancy guidelines (who's responsible for what expenses).

She came up with who is responsible for what! I pay mortgage, utilities, council tax, insurances, pet food, tv & internet etc. She gets the groceries....

I'm in a very similar situation.

My wife told me she would rather just be friends but we still live in the same house.

She doesn't work so I pay all the bills. It doesn't seem fair that I'm working every day while she is living there without responsibilities.

She understands that as soon as I go, she will be unable to pay the bills.

I think it's probably a good idea to get an interim financial agreement drawn up asap.

Cut ties asap and don't torture yourself mate, you haven't stated but if not already start the divorce if she hasn't.

You have all the time in the world to start afresh, you don't have to rush to do anything until you want to. Personally I started by just getting myself into shape a bit and feeling better about myself, but everyone is different

Are there children involved? Even without it might be best to speak to a lawyer.
What do you see as a fair split of responsibilities?

Start divorce proceedings and cutting financial ties as part of that

It’s not acceptable for your partner to write up the terms of the finances and just hand them to you? Were you involved in the discussion? You both have equal responsibility in the divorce - not just you.

She doesn't get to dictate how the finances are split. Either you agree between you or the court decides.