In need of tough love

[Fairycake2]

My husband left me just over a week ago having told me he doesn't want to be a step parent any more and that he can't stand my DD! He's been in her life for over 7 years since she was 2 and said he just finds her annoying. He does have depression but I still can't believe he's saying this and wont even try to work it out. Clearly this is awful and I should hate him so why do I still want him back? Please help me to realise I'm better off without him. I'm not doing too well at the moment and keep crying. Stupidly even phoned him yesterday in tears asking to try again

I was exactly the same. We had a 9 month old when he left. It took a few weeks but honestly now it is the best thing that ever happened. It will get better I promise. All I wish now is I had done it sooner! The freedom is amazing :).

I'm so sorry, it sounds as though this came as a complete shock to you. Of course you want him back at the moment, that's perfectly natural, but he's not in the right place for any kind of discussion now. Can you step back and focus on DD for the next few days, give everything a little bit of time and space?

@user1019273703 I'm hoping I get to this stage soon. So fed up with feeling crap!

I can remember feeling exactly like you. You feel like it will never get better but it does I promise. Im 18 months down the line now and each day it gets better, it gets easier. Take care of yourself and just remember you have your beautiful DD. Mine is what has kept me going x

I agree with the above posts. Move on. It will get easier. Who wants a bloke that can’t stand their lovely baby daughter. Better without him and his problems. You don’t need the drama.