I told y DH that I wanted to divorce him 5 months ago but he has only just told his parents. I don’t have much contact with my in-laws but not due to any problems, just that it’s not that kind of relationship, although I do phone or email occasionally. Anyway, I’ve been feeling awful that they’ve been in the dark about all of this and probably planning nice family presents for Christmas and just generally basking in ignorant bliss that everything is ok. However, for years, I have been very unhappy in my marriage and not down to really awful things like abuse but due to feeling emotionally and physically unwanted (really not going into details here but I had more than enough reason, although DH disputes it all) and I want this divorce ASAP. Anyway, I said to DH the other night that now his parents know that I’d like to write to them but he basically said that I should just leave it to Christmas cards now (he also said that because he’d read my diary where I’d written some disparaging remarks about them that any communication with them wouldn’t be genuine!). I feel that I owe them a letter and, also, they’re good and very kind people and my children are their grandchildren and although I don’t want to be married to their son anymore, I would still like some sort of relationship with them! How does everyone else handle this situation? I fully recognise that they’ll be firmly in DH’s camp but I hope they won’t hate me!!