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Financial settlement

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Walkingwounded · 18/11/2019 18:57

Can’t get an appointment with a solicitor for a week so wondering if anyone has any insights.

Separated from ExH back in May; by August I had managed to buy a house (on my own) and moved into it. Until then we lived (uncomfortably) together. 2 DCs, 50 50 care.

financial set up is that the marital home was a rented property that goes with DH,s job (been in his family for a lot of years). He could not move out without abandoning his livelihood, so I had to be the one that went.

We jointly owned a flat; Dh bought out ‘my half’ of this, which enabled me - together with my savings - to finance the deposit for the house. He also gave me some additional cash since I had bought all the furnishings for the flat, main home etc - none of which I could remove without negatively affecting the DCs. have had to start from scratch.

I’ve also had use of the family car since DH has his own vehicle. Now he has come to me and said that he wants ‘his half’ of the money for the car, which we bought half each (separate finances). But since I had to buy the house by myself I can’t help feeling that this isn’t right.

I know I need legal advice but just wondering if anyone has any advice. I ahve told DH I am ‘considering the options’ - relationship was emotionally abusive (have a support worker from Women’s Aid). Did a calculation on Wikivorce and it said DH would need to pay me £400/ month. But I don’t need ongoing maintenance, I just need to know whether I should pay him for the car or refuse.

Any thoughts much appreciated. Thankyou.

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HollyIvy89 · 18/11/2019 21:19

Have you your financial settlement in writing of any sorts?

What would the £400 a month be for? I don’t understand that part.

Freeat40 · 19/11/2019 07:19

If your married then any asser is technically half yours half his. As he has access to another vehicle it seems a bit petty but yes he can ask for you to buy his half off him like you did with the house. You cant say it's an inconvenience to move out so I want the car as well as legally it's both yours. However to have sorted out your finances this far buy purchasing a home and child care is amazing - well done. Dont let a car hold things up. Nothing ever feels fair in divorce.

Walkingwounded · 19/11/2019 07:58

Thankyou both. I don't have the settlement in writing - this is what we'll negotiate going forward. It's just an innate sense that since I had to finance the house myself, it's not right that I should also hand over money for 'half' of the car.

I appreciate being told well done! - sounds silly but it's been such a struggle so far.

Will see the solicitor next week and hopefully move things forward. Many thanks.

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