Grounds for Unreasonable behaviour

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DH has left. 3 year ago he stole from a family member whilst employed by them. Broke down my relationship with family which I have had to rebuild as I stood by him. I’ve suffered crippling anxiety since. Our relationship slowly deteriorated. Now he’s gone as he can’t handle it. I’m not loving enough apparently.

Happy to wait the separation time in order for divorce if necessary but would I have grounds for a quicker divorce on the ground of unreasonable behaviour. I have written signed evidence of the theft.

There is a child involved.

Would this just create unnecessary angst?

Depends if he will read into it.tbh most unreasonable behaviour lists are works of fiction anyhow. Take it that way and it's fine...

I wrote down in mine that he was a workaholic that was hardly around and that my MIL was overbearing and controlling. It was ok, so I think theft and the effect that has got on you are good grounds to divorce for unreasonable behaviour

It depends really on whether or not he will contest it. You can literally write anything if it won't be contested. Best to find something he will be prepared to agree to if you want it done quickly

I has to put three reasons one was he was arrested and removed from the family home two he has been gone for five years and three he is engaged to someone else I'm hoping this time he signs the dam papers

@slipperywhensparticus if you have been separated for five tears you do not need him to agree to the divorce. You can just send it to court.

Is having a signed confession not enough to say it was an unreasonable thing to have done and the detriment it has caused to me? Does he have to agree or can a judge ?

He has to sign the paperwork. If he doesn't it doesn't go forward...

@Otter71 and a judge can’t decide? I ask as I have no clue

According to Gov.uk it's best if he does sign the papers or it's got to go further he is aggressive and we have two kids together the eldest he likes to involve in it all (he is 10) I'm scared about sending them to there dad for contact my youngest wont see him says he smells (he does) and shouts (he does that too) its a mess really exs favourite thing is showing our son pictures of his bank account as proof he is broke shock is all my fault he doesnt work now my son doesn't want me to claim child support from poor daddy

Anyway! Apparently all you need to do is prove service of the papers if he doesnt dign yes a judge can sign off on it

@slipperywhensparticus I hope you are all getting some support. Sounds like a difficult time for you all.

I know how hard it is. But you can stop them going if it is in their best interest. I do know what a shit storm that would cause. It sounds like you have grounds too.

I would ask school for Elsa support. And get legal advice. I'm sure you have already done both