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Just looking for a handhold

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Trustyourinnersatnav · 05/11/2019 14:17

The relationship disentigrated after 11 years together. It had to end as we became bad for each other. We have four young children together.

It's only been about 8 weeks since we have parted. We will remain living together until I find housing for the children and I.

I am struggling immensely. I live away from family and friends, but am looking for housing back home. I am looking after the house, children mostly alone. He has been very unwell with his mental health and helps where he can.

For the last two weeks I have really tried to get myself into a more stoic way of thinking, which helped me. Feeling positive about being a single parent, being independent. Even feeling positive about him finding the love he truly deserves. But as of the last few days, it has hit me like train. The overwhelming loneliness, sadness, guilt and regret. I'm struggling with the children a little and feel very isolated and alone. I still love him. It is what it is. Just needed to write this all down to spare my friends of one of my desperate phonecalls!

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2littleChicks · 05/11/2019 14:24

I can't offer you any advice - but other women on here are great. I'm going through the same. Living together with a man who hates me for his own affair.
Financially separate we can't manage, kids don't know a thing and I don't know how to move forward.
I'm desperately in love with him despite his narcissistic abusive personality.
For me, it's literally one day at a time.
But I echo your loneliness, guilt, fear, frustration and sadness. You're not alone.

Trustyourinnersatnav · 05/11/2019 14:33

Thank you 2littleChicks, I'm so sorry you are going through the same. How are you coping living in the same house? I feel like space is imperative, in order to heal. It's like living in some sort of horrid limbo!

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2littleChicks · 05/11/2019 14:38

Yep - limbo hell. It's awful but I have lost 10lbs so every cloud.
It won't be forever, that's all I can tell myself.

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