Could I go for spousal maintenance

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Me and ex-husband split 12 weeks ago. We are currently going through mediation. We haven’t come to the financials yet as we are sorting children first so I want to be as prepared as I can be when that comes.

He earns 56k I earn 12.5k. My earnings and career took a back seat when I had my daughter 7 years ago. I went to uni, was a manager and had a promising career ahead. I happily sacrificed this to work part time to raise the children. We also have an 11 month old

I have heard about spousal maintenance, taking into consideration how much more my ex earns how would I go about applying for this?

I hate the spite that comes out on posts like this. It is so unfair. Op I really sympathise with you as am in a similar position. It isn't fair that we hear things like earn your own way or he's entitled to x when we still have the children to support but men are just allowed to pay a small percentage towards it. I hope you get what you deserve. Good luck

Read the document. It explains it all. It’s been prepared by experts rather than repeatedly asking people here who aren’t.

My solicitor requested Financial forms. Ut asked for details on everything - salaries, savings, credit card, debts, mortgages, insurance policies.

Any objects with over £1000 had to be listed i.e cars, bikes etc

We had to give 12 months of bank statements for every account

We had to give an account of what our day to day life was like i.e where we went on holiday, having a cleaner etc

www.gov.uk/government/publications/form-e-financial-statement-for-a-financial-order-matrimonial-causes-act-1973-civil-partnership-act-2004-for-financial-relief-after-an-overseas

I'm sorry you are going through this OP,particularly as he seems to have moved on so quickly but you've said you can't work more due to the children- you can do and you probably will have to. The children can go to a CM before and after school and the little one all day whilst you work and your husband can help you to pay for this. With tax free childcare it's more affordable than you think. I've worked FT since my children were babies, for the first couple of years I wasn't much better off financially than if I was PT, but my earning potential increased massively as did my pension contributions. Once they got to 3 and 4, the childcare bill went right down and now I am significantly better off than I would be PT. Sometimes short-term pain for long-term gain is the way, and being able to stand on your own two feet without him will feel amazing! You don't want to be beholden to him, trust me.