Hope I'm posting this in the right place! Just looking for a bit of advice
I have full custody of my three DC by mutual arrangement with STBXH and he has them one night over the weekend. My problem is when he wants to see them more than this I have always been accommodating, this seems to have backfired! Over the half term he took the week off and had two of our DC for the whole week. The problem is he didn't tell me this was happening he would tell me Day by day if they were staying or not. He has also done this over this weekend had them his night then just kept two of the an extra night. I had to phone his mum to find out if they were coming home or not. Last week he asked to see them one night through the week and I said no as we had plans.
My question is is he being unreasonable or am I? I am thinking of sending a solicitors letter to set out dates over the Xmas holidays so we all know what we are doing rather than me just hanging about everyday waiting to see which of my DC, if any, are coming home. A solicitors letter seems a bit harsh but I feel like he is totally controlling the situation and dictating whether or not I will see my children and it's based on whether it suits him or not.