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Unreasonable Behaviour language

6 replies

Nafo · 24/10/2019 20:30

Hello all,
Forgive me if there is already a discussion about this (I did a deep dig and couldn’t find one!).
I left my husband nearly a year ago and we have now decided to proceed with Divorce.

We don’t want to wait until we reach a two year separation, we were kind of holding out for No Fault but that doesn’t look like it will happen soon.

We don’t have any shared savings, assets or loans, there are no children involved (again please forgive me if I shouldn’t be posting here! It’s mumsnet is full of such great advice, I lurk here a lot!). So it’s a clean break.

He had accepted that he will take the blame, and I will send him the reasons beforehand so there are no nasty surprises and he can object before we begin proceedings. We are going to do it as DIY Divorce.

My question is in what language do I write the reasons?
Should it be formal as in :
“The respondent has failed to look after himself physically despite the Petitoner’s and Medical professional’s requests to the contrary”
Or would it be
“(husband name) failed to look after himself physically despite mine & Medical professionals requests”

I would really appreciate any input that’s offered!
Thank you for reading:)

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atr79gb · 24/10/2019 20:42

I've had a petition for unreasonable behaviour divorce done by a solicitor previously.

As far as I'm aware, the wording should be in the third person, e.g 'the respondent' rather than your husband's name.

Nafo · 24/10/2019 20:51

That’s what I thought but I just wanted to be doubly sure. Thank you for your help!

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legalseagull · 24/10/2019 21:16

I'm not sure if that will be enough for unreasonable behaviour though? It reads as "he didn't do as he was told" in relation to his own health

Nafo · 24/10/2019 21:32

He had quite a serious medical condition (pancreatitis) and was told not to drink anymore, but kept drinking and kept ending up in hospital. It was very distressing.
I can reword it or I can drop it, if it’s not going to be strong enough. unfortunately there are plenty of more serious things I can add but I was trying not to rock the boat too much since he is being so agreeable. Thank you for your advice though, it’s very helpful.

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LemonTT · 25/10/2019 13:57

Probably best to use things that aren’t really that personal. He might get offended and hold things up. There are online examples that are mild but unreasonable enough to get what you want. That is a divorce without blame.

Breathlessness · 25/10/2019 14:01

Have a google for reasons used. My papers cited reasons that were agreed between our solicitors. They don’t have to include everything.

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