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Ryah76 · 19/10/2019 21:51

So 3 weeks ago, the day after our 5 year wedding anniversary my husband dropped the bombshell that he had feelings for aw. Turns out the woman is his colleague who he manages and who previously dated HIS manager. I just don’t get it? She’s mentally fragile, So much so that when the relationship with his boss ended she reported him to HR, citing unfair treatment because of the affair. She was then prescribed anti depressants. I actually cannot look at my husband, he has caused so much pain. We’ve been through ICSI due to his low motility and we had a miscarriage earlier in the year and says that this left him depressed. He’s moved out and he told me he thinks he ‘has to date her,’ but he also says he hasn’t made any permanent decisions yet. I do love him , but he has said some really painful things to me, like he no longer loves me. I’ve told him I never want to see him again and he can start divorce proceedings. I really want opinions on this, Am I doing the right thing? I just can’t keep crying or thinking of them together anymore.

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MollyButton · 19/10/2019 22:03

Don't do a "pick me dance".
Yes telling him its over is the right thing to do. You could look at Chump Lady for some moral support.
Tell people in RL what is happening. Get legal advice. Get rid/pack up his stuff.

Eat
Drink liquids (limit alcohol it won't make you feel better). Soup if you can't eat.
One step in front of the other.
Do tell your boss at work etc.
Be kind to yourself.

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