Currently living with partner of 11 years. Our relationship is not working, he's controlling, lazy and a bully. We have 2 children and im leaving for them more than anything. We have a beautiful home (partner owns with family member). Im going to view a property today (with out partner knowing) last time i told him i was leaving he emotionally tortured me for 12 hours not letting me move, eat, leave. Trouble is, im scared to start fresh. Leaving most of our belongings. Only taking clothes, photos, paperwork. And my childrens things. I will need everything. Friend has offered to borrow money for deposit but i will have nothing, pots, pans, furniture nothing. I know i need to go and my children and I will be happier. But wanted to hear if anyone else started fresh. It's will just be comforting to hear some success stories.