Hello all
I doubt any of you will remember me but I posted back in Jan 2018 asking if leaving my marriage was the right decision. All of you agreed and gave me lots of support /a hard time about being a “naive dummy”. I think I was asked if I had learning disability! It was a really hard decision, hardest I have ever made . And probably the worst time of my life. Even harder than failed ivf.
So I wanted to update you all. We are legally separated , not divorced yet. Neither of us wanted to file before the two year mark as then one party has to be blamed. I have gone back to my maiden name. I have bought a little one bed flat which I love. I have gone back to uni part time studying a masters. And doing really well at work.
I had one relationship after I left the marriage, for about 6 months. We broke up a year ago and I’ve been single since. I have been on dating aps and had some fun dates but about 3 months ago I came off all aps and just been content with being single. ITs been amazing. So lovely. I have no aspirations to have another relationship. I would love children but right now it’s important I just focus on me.
For reasons that I won’t go into, I asked for my original post to be deleted.
But just wanted to update and give a virtual hug to anyone considering doing what I did in January 2018. It will feel hard at times, it still does for me sometimes, but eventually it all works out.