How do you end an abusive relationship?

[Debbie01]

Really need help.
I don't know whether to keep fighting for our relationship or just move on.

We have, in common, 1 daughter who is 2 months old. Ever since we started living together it has been a chaos. He gives me money for rent n utilities late all the time, (he has 2 kids with a previous marriage and gives her 200 weekly around 800-1000 a month) not only that he gives me money late, but only gives me 500 to pay EVERYTHING, I know he needs to support his kids, IM NOT fighting that, but the fact that he leaves me to struggle alone. That's one issue.
Second issue is: he doesn't allow me to talk to guy friends, I cut off all communication with old friends, he doesn't trust me n says I'm talking with others, hes possessive, jealous, doesnt help at home whatsoever, he calls me names (last one was "sorry ass"), oh gives me s e x maybe once every two weeks, screams at me, goes out with his friends instead of being with us, and basically blames me for everything (if he doesnt wake up on time he'll scream at me cz I didnt wake him up, stuff like that.
I know hes in a tough financial situation n I understand, but everything else is just so wrong.

I just dont know how to let him go or tell him its over.

You pack your things up and leave. The details can be worked out after you're in a safe and less chaotic place.

Just get up and go. That's what I did.

Thing is I dont have to pack.
We live in my house

Is it just your name on the lease/title? If so then he needs to leave. If he's violent I'd be more likely to pack his things and put them outside with locks changed than to politely ask him to leave.

But then I'm a cold bitch with no fucks left to give. If someone is treating you this badly ever, much less two months after you've given birth to their child, they are a complete douche not worth your consideration.

Call Women's Aid, and if you need to then get the police involved to keep yourself and your child safe.

Try to talk to a supportive friend or family member and ask them to be there when you throw him out.

Do it, and do it soon. You need to put yourself and your child first.

As above, pack up his belongings & change the locks, have someone with you in case he causes a scene or becomes violent........I removed my ExH's front door key whilst he was in the shower before leaving for work, then packed up his stuff......end of! It's tough to do but it needed to be done for my sanity (he's an alcoholic!)

Go. I stayed in a very similar situation for many years, hoping it would get better and believing his empty promises, feeling sorry for him when he blamed me etc. It’s a cycle of abuse to keep you hooked. Did it get better? No! It got worse. And then I was pregnant again. Leaving him with two children in tow was harder than with just one, so do it now. Leaving him has not been easy and he continues to make my life hell, two years on, but I realise now I have had a lucky escape and my life would be far worse had I stayed. Once you have made the step you will wonder why you didn’t do it sooner. With such a young baby you will get plenty of support - try your local health visitor for advice or your authority’s domestic abuse helpline. Xxx

Who are your talking about? Your partner or your husband?

I planned for the right time for ages. Ultimately though i jnew my life was in danger and just upped and left. Didnt even have the money for a tin of formula. It worked somehow and near 3 years on we are doing amazingly

"It's over. Get the fuck out of my house."

That should do it. Change the locks and move on.

Give him a letter, on the way to work one morning, explaining that the relationship is over and as your tenant you are terminating his rights to live there.
Give him 14 days to leave.
When he goes to work change the locks
Good luck