Ok so from previous post youll know iv left my DC sperm donor .... we're having a disagreement over his days to see the "2" children he wants...
I said he can one night in the week he picks them up from school an takes them (saves me seeing him) and one night on a weekend- he can choose the days just make them set days as he knows I have ocd and I stick to a strictly routine. I have breakfast, dinner and tea at the same time everyday and I get so anxious if it's a tiny bit late lol but Just silly things but I love the routine and order. Specially for the kids as itsgood they know we're they know their rountines to.
He thinks he should be able to pick and chose his days because he might want to "go out" with his friends etc but for 7 years that hasn't been possible for me iv never once been out with friends unless I took DC or I got a night off an had spend it with him.
Your 38 and have 7 fucking kids love, going out should be the least of your concerns!!!!
AIBU to make him pick 2 set nights ? Bare in mind he's NEVER put them to bed, got them bathed and dressed- he helped do first baths as a baby that was i, if they wake in the night he starts screaming an stormes off. Last time he had my son - when I left at a previous time an stupidlyyyyyyy came back like a twat- he used to bring DS home to me at 2am because he couldn't cope with him asking for me so now he's asking to have 2? Will he send them home early hours why I have a new born baby? Will he even manage because he doesn't get much time alone with them ever and now my DS is on a lot of medication for been ill an he's havin difficulty with it like behaviour an sleeping as a side effect so he's difficult to deal with atm... he doesn't know what their saying still (2&3yo speach isn't fab) doesn't know what they like to eat blah blah blah it's always """"what they asking, what do they want, will they like this to eat""" you should know your their dad ? 🤷🏼♀️
I just want him to have 2 set nights/ days an leave it at that. Don't need to speak as friends when you pick them up or drop them off. Just be civil around the kids and that's that. He just has a big issue with it !?!?