New interest after separation

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Someone shed some light for me please!
My husband left me earlier this year (may) our of the blue and said he doesn't love me the way he did and wanted a new life. He still sees our lo once or twice a week and is paying the mortgage as I've just started working part time.

Now... I've joined a dating site just to make myself feel better and out of shock I've actually met a man that I have fallen head over heels with.

He seems to good to be true really. I haven't told anyone I've even gone on a dating website. Little lone meet someone I like and now he wants to know what's happening
As I just keep saying let's take it slow. He seems like a good overall person but we did get intimate last week & he struggled getting hard which he told me was weird but didn't do too much to my body conscious self!

So... question is- do I carry on Seeing him?! When shall I tell family or friends? I won't want to Introduce him to my lo for a long time still.

Also - how so I get the ball rolling for a divorce?! What am I entitled to get - after the house etc as my husband was self employed - any ideas I'm just stuck! Part of me feels sorry for him but it was his idea and he hasn't regretting his decision - I just found a credit card statement with a package holiday booked and he told me he was away this weekend for work?!?!?! Thomas cook holidays?!

I don't know how old you are, how old the man is or what his back history is. I also don't know how old the lo is and what your childcare arrangements are. All can be relevant. But if your stbxh is going away without you he may well have moved on before you... Equally if he is self employed and goes away for work is it possible that Thomas Cook just had the best price flight for where he needs to go?
Unless the new guy is accepting a medical reason to struggle he may be yet put on you. So hold fire. Equally it may be that he is making any availability issues work for him if you are only a when lo goes to dad say.
See a solicitor. Many will do a free initial appointment and get things moving. Sounds like you are well I'm control of knowing his financials so step in the right direction..

Could be a worry about new man. Could be first time nerves. Or erectile dysfunction?

Is ex a honourable man? Made honourable tax return declarations always? Some of my friends , and I read a similar Mn thread last month, where self employed claimed they earn nothing and so mum got minimal settlement, barely nothing or no child maintenance. Be aware.

Go and see a free 1/2 hour with a lawyer. But Do yourself a favour and before get as much paperwork as you can together before you go : bank statements, any of his past tax returns, anything you can get hold of.

I'm in a similar situation minus the intimate bit, haven't got that far yet. We have discussed a financial settlement in draft and transitional arrangements. We are currently toying with whether we will bother to actually divorce until one of us actually needs it because it might be simpler and free of course.

@stucknoue financial agreements/ settlements aren’t legal until the Decree Absolute so be careful there