Hello,
I really need help with my divorce with an English man. Please, could you give me some advice on details, please? First of all, I apologise that I am not English so I might make mistakes of choosing words or language. I hope you don't misunderstand about it.
Basically and simply I want to divorce due to incomparable relationship between us(In the past, he was extremely hot-tempered: rip his clothes, punch door, laptop, punched his car steering wheel so could not drive after, he punched himself whenever he gets upset about little things like an Angry guitar man on Youtube. He put a knife on me(acting like I am going to kill you). The most reason we have fought was dinner. When the tea is too hot, he swore at me, when the food is cold, he gets hot-temper. When I cook something that he doesn't like to eat THAT day, he gets upset. So numerous agreements with him that he cooks for himself or he gives me what he wants for dinner but all failed.
I would say he is the world moaner. When he bumped into a chair, for example, he will swear at the chair and then wear for the house that is shxx, then move onto me and swear at me saying "can't cook, can't speak English", gympezoe=means disabled in his word". He says one thing after another thing and makes me so confused. e.g. he just acted "I am going to punch you" because I was simply there and then next minute, he begs me for a cuddle. if I refused, of course, then he would go mad that he is treated badly. On Friday night, he would say"ah~~~(sigh), weekend is gone". Negative comments on every single thing, make joke or fun of me that I cannot speak English well or I am Asian that would listen to him for whatever he asks for in front of his friends such as "hey, get me a cup of tea" to show off to his people.
I brought money into our marriage but he didn't. I bought a house but he moaned so much that there is no space so I moved to a bigger house because I could not stand of his moan. I bought his car becauseof his moan. I could not stand He wasn't working for 2.5 years, he suddenly got a good job now. and he begrudge(?) that he is the person who is working all day and I do nothing. So I suggested me to work at the weekend at a restaurant but I wanted office job so I studied with my cost, and tried to get a job. As soon as I told I want to get a job(office work), he immidiately reacted "who is going to look after our son?" " I am not paying extra childcare" all sorts. He can't even remember what he said. Every single things he would comment negatively at first and then giving up(?) whatever. his word is bigger than his action or even cannot remember what he said.
So many things to say,,,,
Now, I want to divorce (been married for 5.5 years). He doesn't want to move out. He wants half of the house. He doesn't want to pay childcare. Well, when I was pregnant, he threatened me "I will ring the home office then you will have to go back to your country and THAT child in your tummy, I would not support whatsoever". Hold on a minute, at that time, he wasn't supporting nither my baby in my tummy nor me as a family.
My questions are
- how can I get him to leave my house(it's on my name)
- What if I want to move to a different city or different country, is it possible? how?
- is it really that I have to give him half whatever I have? as he always claims that "half of this house is mine, half of whatever you have is mine". The money was I brought from my country before I met him and I have never worked in the UK apart from rental income. Whenever we have fought because of mainly food or other non-sense situation.
- whatever cost, I want to divorce because I cannot stand anymore. Then, I have two houses(one is rental) and a little bit of savings. other than that I don't have a job, would I still be ok to look after my child? He threatened me that I cannot look after my child as I don't have a job.