Mid life crisis or do I make the call

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Married 18 years, 2 teens, both have careers in London, decent ownership on house but we've barely stopped fighting in the past 2 years

He is staying at a friend's mostly during the week but still comes back on weekends. I love him but don't like him but still find it hard to say I've had enough.

His father is very poorly which doesn't help matters

We talk and seem to kindle a little spark but then it all blows up spectacularly, we don't talk for a few weeks and then repeat.

How did you know when enough was enough? I am dreading any false intimacy at Christmas. The kids are okay but although we try not to show any tension around them I'm sure they know

I married for life though. Why is it so hard to walk away?

Your situation sounds broadly similar to mine.

My STBX wife had a mid life crisis at 40 and decided she no longer wanted to be together just 12 days after my mother passed away.

What I found hard to deal with is the fact that this obviously impacts our children (8 and 5) but in my case I was left with no option but to leave.

I do believe everyone deserves the right to be happy in a loving relationship. It's hard but its sounds like it's the right thing to do in your situation. I too married for life but unfortunately it wasn't meant to be.

Thank you atr79gb I hope you've begun to heal after what must have been a horrible time. You are right we all have a right to be in a loving relationship.

I'm not convinced also he's not having sex elsewhere too because we are rarely intimate and he could have sex with a rock - no emotion