Bird nesting?

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Does anyone have any experience of this, where you keep the house and take turns limiting it with the dcs (the dc remain in the home full time). STBEH is very opposed to it, despair being by far the best thing for the dcs.

We did it for a year until finances were sorted. I found it stressful as I felt I always had to leave the place immaculate and he did have that same feeling. And he brought his girlfriend over which I hated. But ultimately I found it the best transition to their new life for the kids. So I found it to be worth the sacrifice and hassle. He rented a room at his friend's place and I stayed at my mum's when I didn't have the kids.

He did not feel the need to leave the place tidy, is what I meant!

Thank you for the reply. I wonder if stbx (remembered the letters, I knew it looked wrong in my first post!) is so resistant because he knows it would make it easier for me to end things. I just can't see the downsides, but maybe that's me because I'm the one wanting to separate.
It's never that tidy, I don't suppose that would change!
Would a court ever rule that it has to happen? What if neither of us wants to budge on it? I feel so strongly it would be best for the dcs, he feels so strongly he won't consider it.

It's sufficiently unusual that I think it would need both parents committed to it, to make it work well. So I think a court would be unlikely to require it. Of course, most arrangements work best with two committed parents!
Personally, as someone who did 50/50, I think it's worth considering but often the issue is the cost since you end up needing 3 places to live in. Already mentioned is the issue of new partners, and having new children in those relationships what happens then? You will also have to explain the setup quite often when people ask about it.
Maybe might be better if you have older kids, and the time for the arrangement is therefore not too long.

I wouldn't have wanted to commit to it long term. And maybe if I hadn't been the one buying him out I would have wanted a faster, cleaner resolution. I really was hard work sharing the space but as I say, worth it for me for that relatively short time. Ex had had enough after about 6 months (think his GF staying over was a protest to that!) but things just took a while to sort out. I wish you all the best navigating this. It's so hard.