Please can someone advise?

[Winona45]

Separated from DH at the start of the summer holidays. He doesn't work due to chronic illness and has moved back in with his mother. He didn't want to go and is/was devastated.
Part of the reason we are finally over after 25 years, 15 of which i have been the sole financial contributor is that he has developed mental health issues. We suspect some sort of paranoid psychosis . He is now under a psychiatrist and going through a diagnosis.
This is relevant because DH hasn't left the house in over 8 weeks. Not one step.
Currently the kids have been driven by a restive to him twice a week . Once on a weekday evening and one weekend day. The evening is usually 6 till 11 and the day 12 till 5ish.
This is has worked ok in the summer holiday but they are back at school next week.
I cant expect them to stay awake till 11pm at night ?
I dont drive, he does and has the car but he wont come and collect them or pick them up. He either says he's feeling too ill or gives another excuse.

How on earth do i arrange contact going forward??

You be flexible with the timings and day, so one weekend day 12-5pm and one week night from school finish to 7pm. You cannot force him to see his children, but you can make them available and offer to do either a drop off or collection, its up to him to sort the logistics of half of the travel out.

Then he doesn't get to see them. If the travel doesn't work then there isn't anything you can do about it. He needs to get them.

How far is it. How old are the children. Can he meet them from school for a few hours? Does his mum drive?

I appreciate he is ill. And hope he is getting the support he needs to move this forward.

I would pull back to the Saturday at most, and build back up as he recovers. But, and it's a big but, are you honestly sure that whilst he is this ill it is in your children's best interest to continue contact? Paranoid Psychosis is unfortunately a terrible and scary illness, both for the sufferer and those around them (my eldest son (an adult) suffers and this has led to me having to make some very tough decisions to protect my younger children), do you have a contact with his support team that you can ask for advice? In the case of my son the SS insisted we have no overnights, and very limited contact to protect everyone else concerned.