Hello... need some help! My ex partner and I separated in May this year we initially had an arrangement for him seeing our daughter which I set up, this fell through and needed to be changed as I found out he was using drugs (cocaine & weed). I then suggested we do mediation (he didn’t want to after initially agreeing) so we then came to another arrangement without mediation where he was being drug tested and having contact while I was there as well as another adult present (taking her to the park etc...) things again didn’t work out because I found out he was faking the drug tests (asking people to pee in the cup for him) as he was still using these drugs. Following this I explained to him that I no longer wanted to be involved in the contact arrangement (as he was seeing her at my house) and suggested we try mediation. He refused then started to swear and get confrontational (through text) so I spoke to the citizens advice and they suggested going through a contact centre but if this didn’t work we would have to go to court.
I’m still quite young and am a bit worried about what the “court process” will entail? Won’t they just suggest mediation as we would qualify for that as there’s been not domestic violence or anything and I am very willing to talk to him and sort out the contact? Also if it does go to court what type of evidence/proof with I need regarding his drug use? As I’m really not comfortable with him having her by himself or over night as he doesn’t actually have anywhere to live? Any advice or previous experience for this would be a great help!