Force of sale - getting divorced

[jolalaharvey]

Hi there
I’m just after some advise my husband has just taken our house off the market as he’s decided that we are going to stay in the house until our boys are 18, they are currently 14. My solicitor is starting the process of forcing a sale, has anyone been through this & how long did it take? I know it’s unusual but I really want a clean brake & want out the house. I think he’s been having an affair but I cannot prove it & this divorce has been his decision. He originally ordered me to put the house up forsale ASAP & now changing his mind!! I think he’s realized that he will get very little out of the sale after he’s housed me & the boys, he could be waiting until they are 18 so he doesn’t have too house them??

Not with an ex but with a family member. It was so stressful and he smashed up the house, e.g ceilings down and kitchen removed so it wouldn't sell. Cost a fortune, lost a lot of money too. I also had an injunction through court to stop him smashing up the place more.

It was worth it though, person is out my life, they were toxic.

Good luck, one if the most stressful experiences of my life.

He wants you all to stay in the house until your kids are 18? Is he for real if that's the case?

You can force the sale and should be successful as the court will see it in everyone's best interests for a broken couple to live apart. If it's just you and the kids he wants to stay in the house until they're 18, I would take this offer as long as he is going to pay half the mortgage and you sell upon the kids turning 18 and split the equity slightly more in your favour as you will have lived there 4 years longer and kept it in good condition throughout.

Was the planned deal before this for the house to be sold, you and the kids to be rehoused then him to get what's left from the sale of the house? That seems a good option too as it breaks all ties.

It's a tough one. Forcing the sale is probably best for a clean break

Well it may be he want to provide a home for his children?

I think the biggest priority is what is best for your children. They are 14 and I would think that educationally they need to remain in their school and probably shouldn’t experience too much disruption until they are past their GCSEs.

It could be that the sale of the house won’t be a disruptor to that I don’t know. It’s difficult to understand what he is proposing. Who will remain in the house and under what circumstances. Have either of you sought advice on what the financial arrangements will be when you divorce and have you been through mediation. Before you sell the house you need to have agreed splits.

He originally ordered me to put the house up forsale ASAP & now changing his mind!! I think he’s realized that he will get very little out of the sale after he’s housed me & the boys, he could be waiting until they are 18 so he doesn’t have too house them??

I think your instinct is spot on.
Go with your solicitor's advice and good on you for refusing to be bullied.

Hi ladies my husband is a horrible bully & a control freak, he said he would move out but will always be able to come & go as it’s still his house! There’s enough equity to house me Morgage free, my children will remain in there school... he originally ordered me put the house on the market which I did & was getting lots of interest & I think he’s had a change of mind since my solicitor wrote to him with a financial proposal which he obviously doesn’t agree with. Our life’s will be on hold while he’ll be shacked up in his single bachelor pad! It’s a big house, too many memories, the love in the family home has gone, it would be my worst nightmare to stay, I just wanted some advise on how long a force of sale would take & if anyone has experienced this? It’s a nightmare come here & he’s still living here! He also has a business that I’m not aloud to touch as he says I can’t spell it!! He’s a true monster & do not need to go into detail... any advise on the force of sale ladies?