Husband cheated, broke up with me but still messing with my head.

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I caught my husband out in a lie and he admitted he went to a work colleagues house that he had flirted with but nothing happened. He then went on the say he wasn't going to stop seeing her, he isn't in love with me and wanted to break up. My reaction was to pack his stuff and file for divorce. He then said he wanted to try again a couple days later. He promised he wasn't speaking to her. A message popped up on the laptop from his mate saying congrats and getting rid of me and getting stuck into a new lass. I confronted him and he admitted to sleeping with her after I filed for divorce. The first time we were broke up which he keeps saying and tells everyone. He misses out that all the other times he slept with her he was with me. He has broke up with me five times saying he isn't in love with me, isn't attracted to me and cant see a future with me. The second I start moving on he says he wants to try again and he will do whatever it takes to make it work. That is until he actually has to do something then he tells me what I did to make him cheat and puts me down. If I get upset he cant get away fast enough and will literally leave me bawling my eyes out. I still love him but I'm at breaking point. Any advice on how to handle this or has anyone been in a similar situation?

Complete your divorce and don't speak to him again.
Do you have children?

He's stringing you along. He doesn't want you but doesn't want you to be happy.

So sorry I have a brother in the same horrible situation but as there's a kid involved he feels obliged to give it another go. The only thing I can say to you is be strong. When you make that decision to move on, follow it through. As well as the cheating he's said some not very nice things to you and has clearly burnt all bridges.
Is there children involved? If not cut contact, do everything in you power to distance yourself from bumping into or talking to him. I'm sorry I can't be more helpful but you can get through this.

I'm sorry ,but you are acting as though you have no choice in the situation. If he keeps sleeping with someone else and wanting to break up, then why would you allow him back each time he changes his mind. Anyone can see he is an unreliable liar. If you go round the block again it will be half your own fault if he then repeats the offence- because really you already know he will, and you'd be letting him.

As is often repeated on here, when someone tell you who they are, believe them.

We have a daughter and he uses her to get me to talk to him. I tried sorting things out through family and when he said my daughter wanted to facetime but then tried to talk to me I hung up. I still love him and he tells me he says that stuff out of guilt to make me move on because I deserve better. Then he says he loves me and do whatever it takes to make it work and that he would never do it again. I still love him and don't want us to break up so I cave.

You deserve better. He can't have it both ways. When someone shows you who they are listen. He is not a very nice person.

So time to draw your line. Contact is about your daughter only. Money via cms. See your solicitor and get the divorce moving. And go grey rock. Do not engage in anything more than about dd.

None of us wanted our families to fall apart and we turn ourselves inside out to give out children security. This is doing yourself a disservice. You deserve much better. Don't let him use you like this.

So we are back together. He has signed me up for a 6 week weight loss class which I was ok with. I start in a couple weeks and thought I'd treat myself to a take away. Within 20 minutes of me ordering he sent me a screen shot of my order from our joint account with "HUNGRY?". wtf

Take control and leave his arse and carry on with the divorce!

They only weight loss you need is to dump 13 stone of this losers arse!

so I'm not wrong in thinking he's out of order??? I'm starting to notice stuff like this more now.

Sorry your back together after posting on friday and he has you on a weight loss programme... ODFOD, take it your back at school tomorrow?

He's a manipulative bastard.
I hope you enjoyed your takeaway.
Please leave the prick and stay gone.