Any help out there

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My partner split with his ex 2 years ago, he pays the full mortgage and £200 a month for his 12 year old son, who he doesn't see because of the mother as she a looney! she has a partner who lives at the property also, she has stated when the house has to sell she will smash it all up so no one gets anything? please any advice on this, should he stop paying the mortgage? were going through the courts regarding access but she is dragging it out, please help

Do you know her side of the story and why she is loony as you put it? The freedom program for dv survivors talked a lot about perpetrators almost always having crazy exes so that rings way too many alarms for me...She is clearly angry if she said that but....
Certainly think that the new partner should be paying your partner rent though...

First of all it is your DP who should sort it out, not you. It’s none of your business. Yes, women are always portrayed as “loony” or “crazy” when they have been victims. I think you’ll find these terms show zero mental health awareness. Solicitors can sort it out for you, I suggest your DP pays for one.

Hi, I commented on your other post and said without knowing what he earns and how much the mortgage is, it's hard to tell what he should be paying. £200 is a low amount of maintenance per month, it would put your partners earnings at around £1300 a month (as you've to pay 16% of your wage if there's no overnight stays) which would put him at barely minimum wage if that.

Paying the mortgage and CM sounds a lot but if it's a low mortgage, then maybe it works out at what he should be paying and she thinks it makes more sense that part of the CM is to pay the mortgage.

However, you don't usually just get to keep the house outright when you split so she should have bought him out at the time they split or at least be arranging for the house to be sold/her to buy him out once their child turns 18 and is out of full time education.

Also, unless you've seen total proof that he is actually paying the mortgage (he could just be saying he is to make on his outgoings are higher) I wouldn't just take his word for it