Hi there,
This is the first time ever posting something public about my life but I am just at my wits end and feel like I need some advice/support.
I have been with my partner around 2 years and we have an 8m/o together.
Previously, I got myself into some debt and o/h invited me to stay with him and his mum until I got myself sorted. During this time I fell pregnant and we made the decision to stay with his mum until we could sort ourselves out a place.
Long story short, my partner is very irresponsible. After 1.5yrs of trying to move out it still hasn’t happened due to his bad decisions with money. I have tried everything to make my partner see that he needs to be wiser with his spending if we are to ever move out. Also my MIL smokes in the flat so we are piled into one room. For this and my own sanity I NEED to move out.
I have decided that it’s going to happen with or without my o/h it’s his choice. (He will never be able to keep enough money in his pocket to save for a deposit, months rent etc.)
However... My problem is now that I can not move out as a single parent and I’m stuck here.
I obviously don’t earn enough to pass referencing for a private flat, no where in my area will accept me on universal credit and I have not been made homeless so the council will not help me. I have no where else to turn. I feel I have a responsibility to give my baby the best start for his development and unfortunately he is not getting that right now where we are.
I’m am falling into depression as I feel like I’ll never be able to get away from this lifestyle which is what I so sincerely did NOT want for my child. I can not make any decisions here, I can’t even take my baby downstairs to make myself some food. I do not have any money myself to get out and about instead. I feel I am trapped in a nightmare. All I want is what’s best for me and my son but I’ve no choice but to deal with the cards that I have been dealt. I often wonder what I’ve done to deserve this.