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Did I do the right thing?

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Kaz18 · 14/08/2019 06:48

Hello! I’m new here and after some advice please. My husband and I split up back in January and had been together for 8 years prior to that (married for 4.5 years). We have two children together. I ended it because I felt like I didn’t fancy him any more and now I’m wondering if this is normal after the amount of time we’d been together and we just needed to make more effort with each other? Admittedly we had never left the kids overnight so alone time/date nights were few and far between. We still text every day due to the kids and often speak about non kid related things too. I still love him very much but am not sure if I only see him as more of a friend. I miss our family unit and doing things together. I’ve dated a few guys since we split but I always seem to compare them to my husband. Basically, I have no idea if we just needed to make more effort, leave the kids with grandparents and go for nights away etc or if I did the right thing ending it. I feel like I had a case of the grass is greener and maybe it’s normal to feel how I felt before I ended it? He is an amazing guy in every way and would have done anything for myself or our kids and now I feel like I ruined all that by thinking I could find something better because of some fairytale scenario in my head.

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Palaver1 · 14/08/2019 16:00

You don’t feel you’ve done the right thing.
That’s why I strongly believe counselling is very important.
What do you BOTH want to do about it.

Kaz18 · 14/08/2019 17:39

I spoke to him and he said no. He’s happy with his girlfriend. Guess that answers that then.

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Boltoflightening · 14/08/2019 17:55

I think after 6 months it’s normal to question weather you’ve done the right thing. But if he’s saying he’s happy with his new girlfriend, then it seems he doesn’t have a problem with the split.

Just look forward to how you’re going to spend your future. Try not to look back, but just keep amicable with him for the children’s sake.

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